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Hi Love,

I hope you are feeling good and your heart is open. If you feel clogged up because of an emotion and you feel upset, hurt or like you are not being understood then I have a meditation for you today.

Use this meditation when you feel you are right, when you want to defend yourself, when you want something from others.

There is no need to be right or wrong my dear.

Freeing yourself is the only thing that matters.

Love matters. The love towards yourself and others matters.

Let it be YOU and let others be themselves.
Allow yourself this meditation to transform you and the way you communicate with yourself and others. Remember this each time you don’t feel free. Remember to give yourself the best.

Stay with love
xx

 

Take a deep breath.
Feel your body
Feel the space around you
Feel your existence in that space
Feel your heart
Imagine a light comes out from your heart and it surrounds you
Now that light gets bigger outside of you and creates a large space full of light
Now see a person in front of you that you want to listen to and understand.
Surround both of you with the light that comes from your heart
Breathe deeply
Feel that love matters
Let him or her talk to you and just listen to them
Put aside your own needs or what you want to say
Listen as if you are listening to music
Give all your attention to that person
Get out of your mind and just be available for them without judging any of their words. Even if what they say doesn’t make sense to you. Put aside your own judgments.
Accept that there is someone in front of you and they have a totally different perspective than you and that’s true.
Listen to what they are saying to you without “yourself ”being involved
Listen…
Ask if there is more?
Listen…

Understand that the other person needs to be understood and to be listened to
See how he or she is happy to be listened to without being interrupted.
They feel free to be themselves
They say what they want to say freely without feeling a force to prove what they think
They feel safe
They are slowly un-attaching themselves from what they are holding on to
They are no longer defending themselves
They feel intimate. There is a smile on their face
You feel intimate by being available for them and are open to hear their own truth
You sense compassion rising in you by “giving”
You let go of “what you want”; it feels so light
You both feel there is no right and wrong, there are only perspectives
It’s a space with nothing to hold on to and you let go together
It’s a space of “nothingness”
Words are meaningless there
Feel that peace
Breath deep
Let that peace surround your body
Know that you’ve healed your body
It feels open and alive
It’s being free…

Namaste ( I see the Divine in you and in me )

  • November 28, 2015

Hi Love

Hope you are having a good day.Even if it’s not, breath deeply….feel that you are ALIVE!
Feel your body; it’s actually very light.
The heaviness comes from your thoughts.
They are your perceptions….and it’s only perception! It’s not you.
Feel yourself; you are light…breath deeply.
Namaste.

Living Positive

Great idea, isn’t it?

Some of us are aware that negative thinking is no good for us. But, it’s hard to keep it up during the day. Even though you start your day energetically and positive, you find yourself thinking negatively. When I say negative, I mean negative sometimes and feeling limited most of the time. Even if you are in the moment, you catch some limited thoughts and beliefs that come out easily, and there are moments you are not even aware of them.

It’s like there is a system inside you that mostly produces limiting thoughts. That’s right! That’s your mind!

First of all accept that…

It’s actually not negative, it’s the other side of something!

Second, accept that you can’t perceive without the other side!

So, it’s only a perception for me to perceive things.

I can’t reach my full potential without my limited perception. Let’s get this right!

This is how I perceive things and live my life.

We create everything with our thoughts. Thoughts and perceptions are energy. When I think, I create my own reality.

When I am down, feeling weak; I conjure related emotions and memories and feel more like that. I feel sad, upset, and powerless. I can’t be efficient or feel alive.

When I am angry; I call related emotions and memories and feel angrier. I create more anger and negativity in my life.

When I am happy, grounded, loving and tuned in to my nature; I call related memories and feel surrendered.

Third, negative thoughts are no good for me, it’s not good for my health, and attracts more negativity into my life.

I have negative thoughts to appreciate how good positive ones are for me.

Living Positive is a great idea!

I am sure you all want to do what’s good for you.

If you ever meditate and watch your mind. In the beginning thoughts will take you over but, when you relax and slow down, you will have a chance to watch them. They will come and go. You have a choice to be caught by your thoughts or not.

It’s your choice!

If you think you want to do the best for yourself because you deserve that, then make a conscious choice!

Make a commitment to choose to be relaxed, calm and let the limited thoughts leave you, instead of stopping at the negative station.

You are not limited. You create magnificent things in your life.

Nope, don’t underestimate even the little ones you have created and achieved.

Accept that you have been amazing by now.

When you stick to what you have done by now to be here, you will find more reasons to feel limitless.

Like attracts like!

But before that you need to believe that you have done enough and everything is going well in your life.

Like attracts like when there is a foundation. That foundation is YOU.

You need to see the truth, that what you have achieved by now is enough without doubt.

Go back to your limiting beliefs if you have doubt about not being good enough and think about where they are coming from? Who set those descriptions about being successful? Who set the rules about good enough or not enough?

You will choose what you want to believe! There is only one thing to believe. It’s YOU!

You’ve got to appreciate yourself love!

If you want to do one great thing for yourself, appreciate yourself and be very grateful even if its only being able to look at the sky!

Give yourself half a day.

Write down all the great things you have done.

Feel the gratefulness inside of you. Feel this every single day when you open your eyes.

That’s the only way to change the system-program in you (your mindset).

Then you will start living positive!

You know what the good news is?

It will grow in you! You will appreciate more and be more grateful today than yesterday. There is no going back!

Believe in yourself…you are limitless.

And don’t forget to smile…you don’t need any reason for that and you have plenty of them.

Stay in love…

Deniz x

  • November 7, 2015

I love being a Mum.
I feel privileged to have a child in my life.
She is one of my best teachers in my life.
She teaches me huge things about myself.

photo 4In her presence, I have found the opportunity to learn how to deal with things and myself, only in one way, with “LOVE”.

In her presence, I am learning to be very kind and gentle with myself and others.

She is giving me the opportunity to have patience with love and care.

She is helping me to be wiser and I choose to be a wiser mum in every opportunity.

She makes me grow up by pushing me to be in the grey areas of life rather than being in just black & white from a childhood habit. She does that by being in black & white areas and pushing me to be in grey areas for grown ups.

I have learnt the real meaning of being an “ adult” by not fighting with her, instead I take my adult position and deal with issues in an adult way.

I have found an opportunity to be easy going with myself and not to punish myself or to be harsh on myself when things are not going the way I want. I have stopped expecting her to behave perfectly like an adult (even though I am not perfect). In that way, I stopped hurting myself when I make mistakes or not be harsh on myself when things go wrong.

I have learnt that life doesn’t have to be serious to be pissed off with the small stuff.

She has taught me that I can have fun no matter what happens and find the funny side of the accidents.

I practice saying, “I am sorry” in her presence. Also I say sorry to her when I make a mistake. Now she learns to say sorry easily, she thinks that she is not losing anything , instead she is gaining goodness.

I have learnt when she delays things or has no motivation that I need to encourage her and tell her how good she is instead of yelling at her to do it.

I made her believe that she is amazing, fantastic, talented, capable, smart, and beautiful in every opportunity so that I can heal the wound in me, because I didn’t really believe in myself enough for many years of my life.

I let her be a learner the same as myself.

photo 2I found a way to explain to her about my responsibilities of being a mum, so that she can understand me when I say NO. My responsibility is to guide her in life, protect her, take care of her, and teach her my experience. So in her little world, she is not lost by trying to understand why mum does this and that. She knows that as a mum I have some responsibilities rather than her thinking, I am overriding her. She knows very well that I don’t do this but only that I love her and she is so precious to me.

I didn’t make her discover for herself the reason for my many actions so she didn’t become resistant to me and the world in her. I explained every reason so that she can also learn from it. Now I have a teacher at home which she reminds me what to do. She started to create strategies on her own and explore her own intelligence.

I discovered how important it is not to talk negatively in daily life while she has negative words about herself and stuff. So I explained to her that words and thoughts are energy. And water has memory and it gets all the forms of energy. 80% of our body is water. When we talk negatively we turn negative and ugly inside us and we create more negativity in our lives. Like the water crystals. (Watch the video- http://www.masaru-emoto.net/english/water-crystal.html)

She knows very very well who is the BOSS at home. But I allow her to be a decision maker in many things. So we share the management of our lives.

I let her be a child, act like a child and be herself and do things in her own way. In her presence, I have found a chance to practice this everyday for myself too. She teaches me to find more and more fun by being a child every single day.

When she was 2 years old, I was in a panic or hurry to do something; I guess subconsciously I put my face down. She saw that and she put her hand on my forehead, corrected my face and made a smiley face on me. I was stunned in that moment! That was the moment, I accept that she is an old soul and she will teach me a lot in this life. From that day on, I accept her as an individual and respect her. I allow myself to hear more from her. She became my friend very early on.

She made me sure about one reality. Whatever happens in a family, you only have love for them. We are not smaller than issues. Our love is big enough to cover all the mistakes. She knows 100% that whatever she does, she is loved.

I always told her, you don’t need to be perfect, no one can be in reality. You can only do your best because you want to use most of the capacity you have. I had to deal with my perfectionism, because I was trying to be the best to get enough attention and love. I pushed myself so hard.

I told her always to be happy with what she has and appreciate little things in life. This is the way to be happy.

Don’t waste. So she can be mindful about her spending and what she already has.

I taught her other people can not put her down, or talk negatively about her; if they did then stay away from them by thinking they need some time to sort themselves out. You are the boss of yourself. No one can decide who you are or what you need to do. I did make sure that this sunk in for her. I struggled a lot in the past because of other people’s opinion of me. I became defensive in me or outside while I have all my right to believe who I am or what I want. And I definitely don’t need permission to be like that.

I said to her we don’t have to agree on everything, we might have some different perception on things. That means we give different flavours to life and learn other perspectives. In that way she doesn’t need to say ok or yes to everything to be accepted. She has her own voice. So do I, finally!

I said every time to her “it is noooot the end of the world!”. There is always another way. It’s because life is giving you the opportunity to pamper yourself and find out how smart and capable you are by finding a solution again and again. Things should be like that sometimes, and you need to learn to let go…..I am still learning to let go.

I gave her big love and told her at least 20 times each day how much I love her so that she doesn’t need to outsource this in her life, like I did. She felt loved and fulfilled at home.

  • November 3, 2015

I believe some words are Magical…

They are like a key to the heart!

You feel like you’re dissolving…

You’re changing form…

And SURRENDERING…

Say it ‘I trust life’…

Hi Love,

I can’t explain the extent of my happiness at starting my very first article; yet it’s also one of the mantra’s of my life.

I like to think more like ‘ it will happen the way that suits my best interest’ rather than ‘What am I going to do, if this doesn’t happen”. There is something about being positive that takes you to a peaceful place, and it’s your heart’s desire.

When you are positive- your thoughts, words, feelings and actions are positive – you are in Wonderland (in the flow or connected to the source of universal energy which is your soul’s natural frequency) where you can create anything you want!

When you are in a negative state, you adopt a fear based thinking. This is a place where you feel insecure and need to control your situation. It feels like “that’s what you should be doing” or if you don’t do anything you will fail. I want to take your attention to your emotional grasping in certain situations, not your actions. You put extra energy into fear and worrying and you run from this energy. There is no sense of acceptance about the possible outcome or your intentions. Outcomes would either happen the way you want or not. In this acceptance there is a strong surrendering to the way. That’s the way of your goodness.

When you are negative, you are not in your natural frequency which means you are creating unwanted results based on fear. In addition to that, you create patterns of fear based around thinking which will repeat itself over and over again as a result of this, you will find yourself choosing the same path and making the same or similar decisions again.

So you don’t want to do that!

You want to stay in Wonderland, don’t you?

Then stay positive and in your natural frequency!

But how?

By understanding the reason for your fear. You need to ask yourself what’s the
fear or what’s the wrong belief underneath which caused this negative based
thinking? When did you stop believing in yourself? There is work to do. You may
prefer to release this energy by finding out what it is or by changing your
perspective to goodness. Or both.. I want to take you to another perspective.

Let’s get back to your heart’s desire because that’s where your intentions
are..

Have you thought about what’s your heart desire?

Your heart wants to be peaceful, it wants to trust what it is and be safe, then it will be open and flourish.

Think about a situation in your life that you are worrying about and constantly thinking about and ask yourself what you should be doing? Does this feel heavy in you? Does this hold your mind constantly there and make you tired?

Yes it does…

Now, say, ’ I trust that life will give me the best choices for my situation’. And breathe this mantra in a couple of times.

I want you to feel the energy that is released from your body and the magical sense of surrender when you say this mantra. A place where all your concerns and worries go away, and is replaced with a powerful sense of trust.

In this way, you don’t change your current situation, but you separate yourself by changing how you deal with it. How about no matter what, you choose your goodness, peace and trust?

Do you feel a sense of worth?

You deserve the best!

How does that feel?

Fantastic, doesn’t it?

Because you said the magical word, you are automatically in Wonderland where life will take care of everything.

Now, I want you to be very open and aware…because you will start to get answers, messages that will tell you immediately which direction to go in or what to do. These messages will come to you in every way. And when you start getting messages and trusting them more, you will strengthen your connection with life’s energy. The more you trust, the easier you will get messages about your questions or issues.

This is a world, a space for Dreamers…

When you ask and trust with all your heart, you will get the answers.

And when you stop asking what to do about a certain issue in your life, that means that you are right there- in Wonderland -with your heart’s desire and you know what to do.

Let me know about the ‘Magic’ that you create in your life… I would love to hear from you.

Stay in love…

Deniz x